Love

6 Things to Do When You’re Single and Ready for a Fresh Start

Being single is a time to look within, put yourself out there for fun, and break negative cycles or fears in your life. You can make new friends, set goals, and finally mark things off your to-do list that felt impossible to achieve. While some people consider “single life” a death sentence, others would rather go the positive route, taking advantage of all the good that comes from flying solo. 

If it’s been years since your last relationship or being single is new to you, I’d like to challenge you to mark things off the list below as well as create your very own single’s bucket list. 

  • Create a Vision Board-Visualizing your goals is one of the first steps before taking action. You can create a digital board and put one together by hand with old magazine and newspaper clippings. The ultimate goal here, is to help you figure out what’s important and keep you motivated

  • Delete old photos-That part. Don’t hesitate to press delete. It’s best to declutter everything around you including your phone. You’ll become more productive, and eventually learn not to dwell on the past. 

  • Build Healthy Habits-Make your physical and mental health top priorities. Drink more water, recite positive affirmations, and get physically active. Health is wealth!

  • Learn a Foreign Language-Looking to stimulate your brain? Then start by learning a new language. Be consistent because it will not only boost your creativity but deepen your connection to other cultures. 

  • Experiment in the Kitchen-Besides cooking up tasty food, trying new recipes in the kitchen is therapeutic. This activity also gives singles freedom to express themselves in the kitchen. 

  • Take a Dream Vacation-This shouldn't take much convincing. I know—it sounds scary. However, being alone can be adventurous and help you to become more comfortable in your own skin. When you’re by yourself, you can make choices without outside influences, helping you to develop more insight into who you are as a person.

The Ultimate Playlist for Happily Single Women

10 songs to blast on repeat! 

Creating the perfect playlist of songs to sing along is one of many things you can do to refresh and rejuvenate yourself. Sometimes soulful, fun, or women empowering tunes can be enough to remind you of how strong and beautiful you and the ladies around you are. 

Many of us know the power of music. It can change your mood, lower stress, and surprisingly motivate you to be more productive at your job or in the gym. Too often society seems to suggest that there’s a one-size-fits all to womanhood, forcing women to feel insecure when their lives don’t look like the “societal norm''. 

If you’re looking for good music to feel inspired, empowered, or to spark change-here are 10 songs -in no particular order- to blast on repeat: 

  1. Doo Wop (That Thing) - Lauryn Hill

  2. We R Who We R - Ke$ha

  3. Video - India Arie

  4. Girl on Fire - Alicia Keys

  5. Control - Janet Jackson

  6. Take Me as I Am - Mary J. Blige

  7. Don’t Start Now-Dua Lipa

  8. Run the World (Girls)-Beyonce

  9. Shake it Off-Taylor Swift

  10. Freakum Dress-Beyonce

Discover your Love Language

Got Heart? Take the Love Quiz.

There are different ways to express and receive love. According to Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, the concept includes five unique styles of communicating love and categories he distilled from his experience in marriage counseling and linguistics. 

Love languages can be a useful tool to improve how people communicate and express themselves to each other, but please know they shouldn't be considered a remedy to issues or a solution for happiness. 

To find your type, take the quiz and find out more about how you show love.

Empowering Quotes About the Power of Being Single

There are many reasons why you might be single right now, and no matter that reason, it can sometimes make you feel like the loneliest person in the world. Not only that but society has a way of making single women feel like it’s taboo to be on your own and that the single life is fleeting and won’t get you anywhere.  Let’s debunk that myth by recognizing these bold women who have some powerful things to say about being single and loving yourself first.  

  • I’m the best form of entertainment I have! The key is to make friends with yourself. Children make imaginary friends. If I have to do that, I will do that. They will say I’m crazy, but I will be happy. Sometimes it is better to find ways to be happy alone than to have a relationship in which you are miserable for the sake of not being alone.” – Grace Jones

Source: Gallery Books

  • “It's very fun to be single, because you know what happens? You find yourself. You understand what it means to love yourself, instead of putting all this energy into give and tug in a relationship.” – Keke Palmer

Source: Vanity Fair

  • “If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have” – Natalie Lue

Source: Blogtacular

  • Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that’s the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.” — Angelina Jolie

Source: Evening Standard

  • “I was waiting for Prince Charming. Everybody I met was going to be the guy I was going to spend my life with. And then you realize, ‘I’m strong, I’m my own keeper, my own savior’.” – Jennifer Lopez

Source: cfda

  • “Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore. - Lady Gaga

Source: The Gaurdian

  • “The man for me is the cherry on the pie. But I’m the pie and my pie is good all by itself. Even if I don’t have a cherry.” – Halle Berry

Source: PopSugar

  • “I don’t think you can really, truly be the partner you want to be until you know on an absolute level that you are a complete person on your own. I think that’s something all women deserve to know. – Sophia Bush

Source: Stylecaster




Make 2021 a Year to Remember

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Self-reflection is a humbling process.

It’s still early in the year to make 2021 something to remember. In fact, it’s the perfect time for you to do just that and then some! The pandemic has changed many of our lives, especially our daily routines. To those who are embracing a new single status, keep in mind whether you are still working from home or staring at your ceilings at night, that you can still do all the things you wanted to do, even if it’s without a “Bae.” What about the spin classes you always wanted to take? Remember when you and your friends were planning that Girl’s Trip. Oh, and let us not forget that financial budget plan you’ve created! 

Although, the one thing that you desired more than anything, a committed relationship did not happen, you still have lots to celebrate in your life. And it doesn’t include worrying about pre- COVID-19 bae” or anticipating his call!

In fact, hold your head up high and embrace this “New Year, New You.” Truly making it all about you!

You may be back on the market yet again but at least you didn’t get quarantined with someone who doesn’t have your best interests. 

So continue to focus on yourself. The right companion will come along and if there’s another another global crisis, you will not have to worry about if he will call, or stick around. Consider it a blessing if pre-Covid 19 Bae isn’t around anymore. That’s a blessing. Many of us know deep down inside when someone isn’t ready for a relationship. One thing is for certain this may be a  New Year, but take some time to self reflect before making room for a new relationship. .

#JustWait

Self-Care Challenge: Become Your Best Self

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Self-care comforts the mind, body and soul!

Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take a moment every day of the week and practice self-care by playing Bingo, the HerNormal edition.

Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take a moment every day of the week and practice self-care by playing Bingo, the HerNormal edition.

The Art of Being Happily Single

When you’re single, yes, you tend to do most things alone. You may go to the movies alone, or to a wedding alone, but being single doesn’t mean those who are, actually feel lonely. Why do so many folks view single life as a negative? Being single should be a time when the individual tap into their independence and recognize the status as an opportunity for growth. 

Living a single life can mean happiness. Of course there’s freedom associated with the lifestyle but so is art. Why? Because there is an art to being happily single and it starts with the individual. 

What’s your status? Dare to check the box.

What’s your status? Dare to check the box.