You’ve lost yourself. You don’t know how or when it even happened. Someone asks you a simple question and it dawns on you – what do I like? Is being my family’s coordinator even count as a hobby? You couldn’t tell someone what you enjoy these days. Your life revolves around your family, your career, your marriage. Your life doesn’t just belong to you anymore.
That doesn’t mean that you aren’t happy, but just missing a piece of it. As much as you adore your family and doing acts of love for them, you have forgotten who you are. There are ways to improve the emptiness you may feel after this realization.
As parents, employees, and spouses; we find ourselves racing against the clock to complete our tasks just in time to begin the same cycle the very next day. It does get exhausting, however, possibly it is partly because we forget to live in the moments. We fail to prioritize our own hobbies and enjoy everyday responsibilities.
Live in the moment
Don’t forget to love life! Yes, even the things you have to do. Finding ways to enhance your daily duties helps you enjoy life more and you’ll reconnect with yourself. Yes, your relationship with yourself is as important as other relationships. Have fun with yourself. You already must do them, so why not improve them! You could:
Make a new friend.
Light your favorite candle.
Try new food on your lunch.
Take the stairs instead of the elevator.
Dance in the rain, or just dance regardless of the weather.
Listen to music in your car and while you clean your house.
Take a different drive to work to explore and appreciate the world around you.
Try different ideas to switch it up until you find what works for you. Being able to have fun while getting things done, will help you find happiness. You spend most of your time, doing these duties. Can you imagine how much happiness you’ll add to your life if you find a way to enjoy them?
Hobbies
Now, next in line is to prioritize your own hobbies. Pick up previous hobbies you loved before your marriage. Or if you can’t think of any, sample hobbies. That’s right! Try a little bit of everything, the most important part is to make time. It is a priority, so schedule it in. Some ideas to get you started:
Writing
Painting
Camping
Wine tasting
Make your own candles
Hit up the gym
Board games
Gardening
Road trips
Hiking
While you can do these with your spouse to continue your connection, it will benefit you to do some on your own. It is important to learn yourself and what you like, you will be happier bringing your newfound positivity into your marriage.
Where will you take yourself? Happy rediscovery!