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Top 6 Dating Tips to Obey

Too many dating rules, ugh!

Too many dating rules, ugh!

You’ve tried everything. To name a few, dating websites, blind dates, speed dating and the list goes on. But have you taken a look at your approach and habit lately in regards to dating?

Below is a list of things to avoid to help lead you possibly to someone worth keeping around. 

  1. Don’t put restrictions on love or your feelings. I get it, we sometimes warn ourselves not to fall too fast for folks, but if it happens don’t beat yourself up about it. Don’t be afraid to catch feelings just be smart and remember not to ignore red flags or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. 

  2. Don’t ignore a person’s social media presence. Some folks are known to have multiple personalities. If you happen to be friends with someone you’re dating on social media, don’t ignore or accept their multiple personalities as just normal. It could lead to something dangerous down the road. Also, without stalking, just know it’s cool to check someone out on social media. So don’t be afraid to do a little research. 

  3. Don’t rush things. Respect a person’s timing and space. This means allowing the person of interest to develop feelings at their own pace. Be patient. However that doesn’t t mean dating the same individual for 5 years years. It should take that long to figure out if both of you should pursue something more serious. 

  4. Don’t jump in bed too fast. Some people are instantly attracted but don’t be afraid to resist it. Physical chemistry is the icing on the cake. It should not be the foundation for the relationship. 

  5. Keep your exes name out of your mouth. Being too open about your past sometimes does the opposite of strengthening a bond. It could open you up to heartbreak especially once you share your vulnerable experiences with a stranger.

  6. Put away the phone. Today, some of us are glued to our phones but when you’re dating, it is best not to give into distractions. Stay off the phone and listen during conversations. Who knows...you could learn something quite interesting or allow a red flag to slip on by. 

The moment your crush turns into Mr. Right

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I still can't believe it's real...

Just a few months ago I was introduced to a man who gave me butterflies.  As Beyoncé "You had me at hello" plays in the background, I'm all smiles because I still can't believe that the two of us are going strong! How many times have you dated Mr. Wrong? Yes, many of us can certainly share a story or two. However, this man is a person I never thought existed. He reminds me daily of love, patience and kindness. Although he's a man of few words, his presence alone gives me peace and comfort. Have you ever been around someone you simply enjoy just sitting with and doing absolutely nothing? That's how I feel when we're together and  binge watching our favorite shows. He's my calm when things get rough, and he's even my personal chef.  The story is a way to a man's heart is through his stomach but it also goes for some women like myself. I'm a true foodie.  I have had so many good meals over the past few months cooked by Mr. Right that I just may blog about them. Ha!

You know there's still hope for many of us women who feel like we're failures at relationships. There's love out there, it's just often times we lack patience and jump around with those who never means is well.  Let me tell you, I'm the perfect example of an imperfect person meeting another imperfect person who's willing to take their time, communicate and let their true self be known early in the relationship.

 I'm so looking forward to our journey because I'm sure it will be amazing. So in the words of my like my girl, Mrs. Carter, 1+1=2 and he definitely has me drunk in love.  I love him like XO... not to mention he captured me with his Halo. It's safe to say at this point my crush is Mr. Right.

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