I have spent the past 11 years dealing with a man who I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I guess you can say I put all my eggs in one basket when it came to that relationship. Even through turmoil, I still believed that he was the one! In the beginning, our relationship was good, at least three of the years.
In fact, our relationship really changed after my grandmother informed me of a conversation she overheard in a grocery store. Two women were talking about a wedding they had attended. The name is what shocked my grandmother because the very unique name was familiar to her and ended up being the person I was dating at that time. Of course my grandmother called me with the information. My heart literally stopped and I felt like the room was spinning. I said, "No, grandma. He did not get married." At the time he admitted to cheating and had a baby on the way but nothing was ever mentioned about a marriage. Long story short, my boyfriend was not only having a baby but now belonged to another woman. He did get married.
However, I thought that even through his infidelity, secret marriage and baby he had while we were together that he would still come around and possible marry me. That never happened even though I tried to erase those bad memories from mind by dating. Perhaps, if I didn't invest all of my time into him, I would have probably met some really nice men to date or better yet, I could have been married by now. I guess that’s the danger of putting all of your eggs in one basket. I absolutely put too much of my energy into one man just because in my mind I wanted him to be the ONE. I know now that the mistake I made was that I settled and I didn't value my self -worth.
Today, as a single woman, I strongly encourage women not to settle, and know their worth. If you do, you'll save yourself from meaningless relationships and people who are just not good for you.