Online dating, lockdown & Covid-19

Meeting Mr. Right during a pandemic.

Take things slow.

The popularity of online dating has grown immensely over the last decade especially since Covid-19. Although, the Coronavirus has changed the game, the dating culture could change even more once the pandemic comes to an end. That means single life and the way folks connect will look different, and could possibly pose challenges for those anxious to meet their soulmate. However, there are a few things you can do if you’re in the dating world for yourself before you create an online dating profile. 

1.Be your best self: This sounds sounds simple but it’s necessary. Finding love starts within when you decide to love yourself, let go of hurt and choose happiness.

2.Embrace the time: The pandemic could be the reason why you step into a meaningful relationship. Why? Because you’re forced to take the time to get to know each other. 

3. Be open and get rid of your list: Make room for quarantine love stories to arise out of the coronavirus, and don’t worry about the list you made up to describe your perfect soulmate. 

How to discover the real you with a mirror…..

What do you see when you look into the mirror? I strongly believe the mirrors in our homes can sometimes be taken as good or the opposite, revealing flaws we often try to conceal. Lately, my super large mirror and I have not been getting along. I usually blame my mirror for everything! I blame my mirror for not recognizing coffee stains on my clothing that I often miss while in a rush or the lipstick that lands on my teeth. However lately I have been blaming my mirror for my constant heartache. Every time I look in the mirror I feel like I'm reminded of a flaw that I didn't see before and no matter how much I change my outer appearance, my mirror always catches the real me. I have been holding on to so much these past few months such heartbreak from yet another failed love interest and sadness because I didn't want to face the truth. The reality is we can't hide from our truth and it's just that simple. We can walk past our mirrors, pretend that they aren't there but eventually we will have to face them and the fact that the person looking back is truly us.

So I've been making a point to not only stop and look in my mirror but confront myself and ask if I really like the person that I've been seeing?! In doing so, I’ve realized that I'm not defined by who I see or by the things that I've gone through. My mirror is just a reminder that the person I see is still here and that person can still grow and change for the better.

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What men think you need to do about your single status

No. You don't need a pen to take notes. All you need is a trash can to throw that old list away. In fact, the first thing relationship expert Jack A. Daniels suggests is to take a look at yourself while author Kevin Carr advises women to re-evaluate their preferences that often make relationship goals seem impossible to achieve. 

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Stood up!

So part of being single is going on fun and exciting dates, sometimes several within a week.  When you finally meet someone who you actually like instantly you look forward to going out with them and having an amazing time. I must admit I stopped going out for awhile because I was either meeting men who I didn't connect with or not meeting men at all! However, recently I met a man and he seemed to be everything that I wanted. He's intelligent, handsome and a Moorehouse College man.

Now for those of you who don't understand what that means .....please let me enlighten you.  In college you would often hear girls talk about different men on different college campuses.  One of those college campuses happened to be Moorehouse and the men there had a certain reputation. They were known for their intelligence, aura and style. So as you can imagine I was excited about the possibility of us connecting.  I had already been on a few dates and had an amazing time each and every time we were together.

However, one hot Saturday summer night I was all ready for our day together but to my surprise his phone was off or maybe he just want taking calls.  My heart sank when I thought this man was possibly standing me up.  I stared at my phone, checked my social media accounts , only to find nothing. I was crushed. After staying in the bed all day and watching crazy Lifetime movies, I decided to pull myself together throw something on and take myself out.  While out I called one of my close friends, who came out to meet me for dinner. As I sat there with a sad face slowly drinking my margarita, she put it all in perspective. She said, "Girl that man owes you nothing and sure you may be sad because he hasn't answered his phone but the two of you are simply dating."  

My friend is very wise and added, "Don't put all your eggs in one basket for a man you just met. Yes you may like him  lbut that's the beauty of dating ... You can date a few people at a time and then make a executive decision when the time was right."

Immediately I started to feel much better. She was right.  Yes I was sad and discovered one of my biggest weaknesses.  When I start to like someone I really fall hard. I need to simply just date with no expectations and if we are suppose to be..... then we will be. I will say that I hope to hear from Mr. Moorehouse just to know that he is ok. As for our future, only time will tell. Whatever the case I think I'll continue dating and learn to have fun with the process.  

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