The truth is....I was in love with the idea of being in love with this man. I was blinded by lust and the illusion of love.
Always protect your heart.
Always protect your heart. That doesn't mean keep your guard up but pay attention to signs. I dated a man before who I'll call Mr. Rumor. Why? The reason is simple. This man had many secrets and there were so many rumors circulating around about him that I didn't know what to believe. Everything from Mr. Rumor being married, divorced and possibly gay.
To me, the most difficult thing about a rumor is, it may actually be true and could have some validity to it. I will never forget the day I laid my eyes on Mr. Rumor. He would tell me how much he cared for me, how I was different, and how he wanted to be with me and only me. One night while out with my girlfriends, I learned there was a lot more to Mr. Rumor. Apparently some of my friends were familiar with him. I eventually started to replay some of the conversations that we've had in my head, eventually questioning him and the friendship we had developed. In a matter of no time our relationship faded because I started to ask questions. I guess making it difficult for him to lie and pressuring him to clarify the rumors. To date, there are still many rumors lingering around about him.
However, I did learn a valuable lesson from that encounter with Mr. Rumor. The lesson is now a part of my dating 101 rules. I strongly advise women and make it a point myself to always ask questions and never settle.
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Single? Look at the bright-side!
Being a single woman has it perks. Well, that’s at least what I think. Although I often find myself daydreaming about a relationship, I must say I’m beginning to become more patient despite my burning desire to be with a stand-up guy. Hmm, what will he look like? Will he be tall (I love men who tower over me)? Will he be quiet? I’m sometimes extremely curious about my future especially when it comes to a potential significant other. Eventually I quickly snap out of my daydreaming because my imagination can run wild for hours.
At one point in my life, the only thing I could ever think about was marriage but I'm starting to realize that I enjoy my life. In fact, I really enjoy coming home to my diva pad, and I love eating random things for dinner! I’ve also realized as a single woman that I just don't want to marry someone because I’m in love with the illusion of love. Relationships should have a solid foundation, love and communication. I want to be able to laugh uncontrollably with my spouse, I want us to have the same values and morals and I definitely want who ever I end up with to make me smile just by his presence.
You see love comes and love goes in relationships without substance and foundation. So before I end up in another meaningless relationship, I’m on a journey to get myself together and finally for once take care of me. I've started taking yoga recently, booked a few short weekend getaways, and so far I love it. When you look at being single from a positive perspective you’ll eventually see that it has its perks. After all getting to know yourself only strengthens and builds a better you.