5 Thought-Provoking Quotes to Ease the Peer Pressure to Have Kids

Not all childfree women are barren. Some women may have lost children early in their lives and never had more. Whatever the situation, some celebrities managed to have refreshingly honest conversations about a very personal subject to empower women. Remember it could always be a decision to opt out of parenting and the pressure to have children. Childfree women are far from incomplete and we have some celebrity quotes to help you see that womanhood is not always synonymous with motherhood.

• "I try not to listen to the shoulds or coulds, and try to get beyond expectations, peer pressure, or trying to please—and just listen. I believe all the answers are ultimately within us. When I answered those questions regarding having children, I realized that so much of the pressure I was feeling was from outside sources, and I knew I wasn't ready to take that step into motherhood." ​​—Kim Cattrall, O Magazine, 2003

• “I’m happy, but the fact that I'm not married and don't have kids — it's taken me a long time to get to a place where I actually am OK with that, where I actually don't feel like I'm some sort of loser."—Rashida Jones, The Guardian, 2014

• "I've thought about this a lot lately. I never thought I'd be this age and not have kids. But my life has also gone in a million ways I never anticipated. I kept feeling like I'd wake up with absolute clarity, and I haven't. And we have a pretty great life together. The chance that we'll regret it doesn't seem like a compelling enough reason to do it. I may wake up tomorrow with that lightning bolt, and I'll have to scramble to make it happen."—Jennifer Westfeldt, New York Times, 2012

• "Of course I wonder what that would be like but, your destiny is your destiny and I can't imagine, if by some miracle I got pregnant…at this point in my life, I wonder, could I even manage that? It would be a lie to say there's not a bit of sadness there, but I don't get caught up in it."—Kylie Minogue, The Sunday Times, 2018

• “So here I am sorting out what MY LIFE looks like when it’s fully mine, it takes a certain bravery to do that. It means risking being misunderstood, perceived as alone and broken, having no one to focus on, fall into or hide behind, having to be my own support and having to stretch and find family love and connection outside of the traditional places. But, I want to do it. I want to be the Brave Me, the real me, the one whose life is my own.”—Tracee Ellis Ross, Ebony Magazine, 2017

Break Before You Burn Out: Six Ideas for Your Bucket List

Many of us live hectic and busy lives that don’t really afford us the opportunity to relax at home. Sometimes we all need a little time to ourselves, to make decisions, and discover our strengths. Perhaps you're experiencing health, career, and relationship changes that call for a solo travel solution or a trip with friends. 

It's wonderful to share a special trip and new experiences with a partner, family, or alone from time to time, and here are 6 good fun activities to try on your next vacation. 

• Bolt Farm Treehouse

• Strom Nordic Spa

• Cielo Farms

• The Gondola Getaway

• Macari Vineyard 

• Magic Hour Rooftop

5 Getaway locations for Childfree Adults

There are many reasons why women aren’t having kids these days, whether they want to save money, to focus on themselves, or they’re in the IVF process with their partner, that decision should be respected by family and friends. No matter what your reason is for not bearing children at the moment, everyone deserves a little self-care (especially after the year we’ve had) which is why we’ve created a list of 5-weekend getaway locations in the United States for you to visit to unwind, relax, and indulge in a little me time. 

• Post Ranch Inn - Big Sur, California – Big Sur continues every year to be a beloved vacation spot for anyone needing a getaway. For this location, you’ll want to head to Post Ranch Inn, where you get majestic views of the Santa Lucia Mountains from your room, as well as award-winning cuisine, specialized spa treatments like no other, and bonus, the resort doesn’t allow any kids, which gives you plenty of room indulge in all that Big Sur has to offer.

• Hallmark Resort – Cannon Beach, Oregon – This one’s for the romantic getaway you’ve been meaning to take with your partner, I mean come on, it’s in the name. Hallmark Resort is located on one of the most beautiful stretches of Oregon’s shore overlooking Haystack Rock, a location many people jot down on their itinerary each year. The resort sits a few steps from the beach where you get to explore colorful tide pools and an array of sea life. The resort also features a spa and wellness center, as well as heated saltwater pools, a sauna, and complimentary bike rentals for those times when you want to adventure out.

• Little Palm Island Resort and Spa – Little Torch Key, Florida – So exclusive that you have to take a small plane or boat to get there, this resort sits a few feet from some of the most crystal-clear water you’ll ever see. At your arrival, you’ll be greeted with champagne waiting for you and the chance to walk just a few steps out to the gorgeous ocean view that’s all yours for the weekend. Nap during the day in a hammock or walk along the snow-white sandy beaches and try and spot vibrant coral or the fish that call it home.

• Lake Austin Spa and Resort - Austin, Texas – Keep Austin weird they say, and while we love the vibrant energy this city carries, just a little further out of the city and you hit the beautiful Texas Hill Country. Lake Austin resort is the perfect secluded vacation to take yourself on or go with your partner. They offer all-inclusive packages, gourmet cuisine, and access to the lake for some water activities or tanning.

• Triple Creek Ranch – Darby, Montana – We know a good beach trip is always relaxing but we had to add a location that would help take you out of the stressful city environment and right into the Montana wilderness for some much-needed R&R. This ranch offers you the chance to stay in a lavish cabin or ranch home. They have cozy fireplaces, hot tubes, and activities like hiking, dog sledding, and golfing.

LeNora Faye: Owning your Stance to Live Childfree

Get to know Canadian blogger, LeNora Faye who created a space for childfree men and women.

At a certain point in a woman’s life, she is flooded with questions about bearing children. Questions that can be triggering for women who struggle to get pregnant. However, that’s not the case for LeNora Faye, who loves to rock colorful wigs and portrays herself as an open book. In fact, the Canadian shared that she uses questions about her childfree lifestyle as an opportunity to raise awareness about a growing community of men and women who are unapologetic about their leisure time and confident decision to live childfree. Unsolicited advice from people have also opened the door for LeNora to plug-in her brand namesake which has grown from a blog to a small media company.

LeNora’s creativity has led her to launch not only the podcast, “Childfree Girls” but the “Accidental Parenthood” podcast that tells the story of her brother’s unplanned journey to fatherhood. She is a woman who wears many hats, from a boss to an author.

To further uplift others, LeNora recently partnered with a group of like minded men and women to host a worldwide free conference happening in July 2021 to connect people who live childfree by choice. 

Two moments in LeNora’s life led to her childfree choice. She recalled both experiences in a recent interview. Take a listen: 

Reach for the Stars: Successful Women who Make Childfree Look Good

News flash! Women can build a life of success without ever bearing a child. For those that do, they are often shamed or labeled everything from selfish to “less of a woman”. No matter how someone gets to the decision, there’s certainly a lot to look forward to as more women blossom into what society still questions. Cheers to women empowering women (even men) who opt to live childfree.

Childfree versus Coronavirus

Women without children are often viewed as spinsters, cat ladies, career women, selfish and the list goes on. However, with the demand for essential workers during the spread of the coronavirus, there’s potentially increased risk of burnout. Anyone, with or without children, can spend too much time working. And everyone has a life in need of balance. Generally, whenever anyone gets downtime it’s usually an opportunity to de-stress, unplug and do whatever you feel like. While those without children are not around to compensate for the commitments of those who have them, there’s never any harm in lending a helping hand to a single mother who’s a nurse working a double shift at the hospital, or the single father struggling to homeschool his children. 

There are a number of misconceptions faced by childfree adults in today’s society. However, many prove folks wrong everyday. In fact, I know many to be responsible, mature, nurturing and good role models. 

Kindness should never feel like work. So as the coronavirus forces many to go into overdrive to help control it, think of ways you can help a person or even a family during this challenging time. Childfree may be a choice but so is kindness. 

“You’ll change your mind”

When people come across women and men who don’t have any children, they often make assumptions or give unsolicited advice and prayers. That’s because there are actually folks who believe a person’s life isn’t fulfilled until they conceive a child. Some people would argue that the reason for human existence is for procreation. Yes, to some it’s important to keep the family’s bloodline alive. There’s a number of reasons for having children and just as many to support those who opt to be childfree. Then there’s a select few who go back and forth with the idea of children. That’s okay too. However, for those who are firm in their decision not to have children tend to get the, “You’ll change your mind speech.” As if the choice to not bear children calls for a immediate debate with those who have them. It’s almost as if some of those people are trying to convince themselves that they made the right choice, or that everyone must come to the same conclusion in life. I’m curious if it works the other way around. Do parents have regrets and wish upon a star that they’ve done things differently?

Can the woman (or man) who desperately wanted kids in the past, get over it? Yes, because I know that woman. Sometimes the thought of having children comes in stages of life. At one point, everyone around a close friend of mine was getting married and having babies. But it never happened for her. Of course, she mourned her fertility challenges with people like myself. However, she later openly admitted that she only wanted children because she thought that was the thing to do. Eventually, she found peace and comfort with childfree living. My story is a bit similar. I’m married and childfree as well. In fact, sometimes when my husband and I are together, at a social event, we still get the “You’ll change your mind,” speech. Instead of diving deep into a conversation, we both just look at each other, laugh, and quietly say, “No, we won’t.”

What childfree means to some folks….

Childfree doesn’t mean free of responsibilities

The lifestyle still requires a level of planning. Let’s shoot for Africa next week, though. 🤷🏽‍♀️