Traveling with kids can be fun, full of surprises, loud, crazy or even chaotic. The vibe definitely changes when children are around. However, Adults-only resorts and no-kids-allowed policies have been spreading across vacation destinations. Whether you’re childless by chance or comfortably childfree by choice, you can travel without the distraction of unsupervised children in hotels, restaurants, and attractions. Below are some place to add to your bucket list.
The character I connected with the most in the movie Girl's Trip
Are you the friend with everything except for a child? I am and my heart dropped the very moment Ryan Pierce, the character in the movie Girl's Trip shared with her friends that she was suffering from infertility. The scene was just like a moment ripped out of a chapter in a book about my life. The three ladies surrounding Ryan (Regina Hall), an award winning author in the film all reminded me of women in my close circle. Ironically, we all met in college too. There's the fun, silly friend like Dina (played by Tiffany Haddish) who I actually met in dance class. Don’t judge me. I was trying to take it easy that particular semester. However, my Dina is no joke either. She’s the friend that hurts when you hurt and has no problem fighting on your behalf. To be fair, I actually have two Dina characters in my life. Then there’s my friend who is so similar to Jada Pinkett-Smith's character Lisa, that all I could do is laugh. My husband likes to call that friend "Big Stiff" since she's always uptight about any or everything. But don’t get it twisted the Lisa in my life is a joy to be around once she lets her hair down. She’s my divorced friend who actually had a baby during one of the darkest periods in my life. It was 2012 and my husband and I were desperately trying to conceive. Five years later, that's no longer the case but the fertility challenge certainly put a strain on my marriage. Thankfully, infidelity isn't the strain that I had to endure like Ryan but the pressure to put on a fake smile like her hits too close to home. As far as the friend that plays the role of Sasha (Queen Latifah) that's a tough one. None of my friends has had an interest in my journalism career so a competitive friendship is completely foreign to me. However, I do have a Sasha friend whose dreams were just as big as mine. Unfortunately, life just didn’t pan out the way she had planned.
My girls are my sisters for different reasons. Individually, they all made me realize that it's alright not to have it all. It doesn't make me any less human or successful either. Today, I still have dreams of a baby but I'm reminded through my strong friendship with those ladies that it's okay to be transparent and share those feelings. Like Ryan, I used to put so much pressure on myself to keep everything together. I assumed that I had to especially as a 37 year-old accomplished woman. The truth is I should be focused on sharing my truth and building others up. The fact is I am not alone and neither are the women with similar stories. So whether you’re the friend who appears to have it all, just know that it’s okay to tell others that you don’t have it all. Many of us are missing things that we’ve prayed for but if that’s the case,it shouldn’t stop us from being thankful. No matter what that missing piece of the puzzle is, I encourage you to find strength and peace in knowing that the bottom line is that you’re still blessed. Just look at who’s in your corner. It may be your family or friends but be reminded today and forever, that your blessings are right there in front of you.