The moment your crush turns into Mr. Right
I still can't believe it's real...
Just a few months ago I was introduced to a man who gave me butterflies. As Beyoncé "You had me at hello" plays in the background, I'm all smiles because I still can't believe that the two of us are going strong! How many times have you dated Mr. Wrong? Yes, many of us can certainly share a story or two. However, this man is a person I never thought existed. He reminds me daily of love, patience and kindness. Although he's a man of few words, his presence alone gives me peace and comfort. Have you ever been around someone you simply enjoy just sitting with and doing absolutely nothing? That's how I feel when we're together and binge watching our favorite shows. He's my calm when things get rough, and he's even my personal chef. The story is a way to a man's heart is through his stomach but it also goes for some women like myself. I'm a true foodie. I have had so many good meals over the past few months cooked by Mr. Right that I just may blog about them. Ha!
You know there's still hope for many of us women who feel like we're failures at relationships. There's love out there, it's just often times we lack patience and jump around with those who never means is well. Let me tell you, I'm the perfect example of an imperfect person meeting another imperfect person who's willing to take their time, communicate and let their true self be known early in the relationship.
I'm so looking forward to our journey because I'm sure it will be amazing. So in the words of my like my girl, Mrs. Carter, 1+1=2 and he definitely has me drunk in love. I love him like XO... not to mention he captured me with his Halo. It's safe to say at this point my crush is Mr. Right.
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Valentine's Day: The day I fell for all the hype
The year was 2000. It was a cold windy day but that didn't stop me from being fashionable and wearing my bright pink wool coat. My long hair was blowing in the wind periodically sticking to the clear gloss on my lips. I was happy until I walked into my job that day. I worked at a law firm. I was still in college and the youngest in the office. To my surprise roses were everywhere and being delivered to many of the secretaries who were cheerful like school girls. I had no reason to be happy. I was single and recently dumped by my college sweetheart. It's funny how you process Valentine's Day when you're single. You start to say things like, "It's noting but an ordinary day." This paticular Valentine's Day I desperately tried to convince myself that it was just a regular day.
However, by the evening my day took an unexpected turn. I met up with my best friend at the mall. She was single too. Being silly, we started to both joke about our dating lives. As we visited store after store, something caught my attention. It was a pink balloon and it matched my coat. On the balloon it read, "Congratulations on your engagement!" Suddenly mesmerized and without hesitaion, I purchased it. When my friend noticed my purchase, she shouted, "You're so crazy!" Then we both burst into laughter.
In that moment, yes I was crazy and wanted to feel special like every other girl walking around with flowers, stuffed animals and holiday candy. That's just what happened, when I began to walk around the mall with my balloon. I immediatley felt special. "Congratulations," people shouted from across the mall. Then there were those who slowly put their heads down possibly boiling with more hate for cupid. The black leather gloves I wore that day made my fake engagement easier. Shockingly, no one asked to see my ring finger and quite frankly I'm glad no one was bold enough to ask about my "engagement" details. What I did enjoy was all the love and attention.
Sure that's what we want sometimes, and there's nothing wrong with it even if it is only for short moments. However, I later realized that the Valentine's Day craze forced me to fall for all the hype. Thankfully that only happened once. Today, it is seriously just another day.
I'm older, more mature and now married. It's funny because one day when my husband and I were only dating we decided to run out to the mall. It was another cold day and I needed a case for my cell phone. As we walked around, we couldn't help but notice couples everywhere. There were long lines in restaurants and most peope were draped in red clothing. We thought it was the weirdest thing. So as we were exiting the mall, I approached a couple. "Excuse me, what's going on today and why is everyone wearing red," I softly whispered. The couple looked stunned and the woman then loudly replied, "It's Valentine's Day!" Like a deer-in-headlights, I looked at my boyfriend and just laughed. To think there was a time I stressed myself out over the holiday, amazed me. I'm loved and cherished so much that today when "V" day rolls around I'm oblivious to it. The lesson is don't wait around for someone else to make you feel special, just show yourself some love until that special someone comes sweeping you off your feet and making you feel like every day you're his sweetheart. 💋
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New Year, New Me
I've never been the kind of lady to make New Year's resolutions, and this year was no different. However, as I was getting ready for my family's annual New Year's Eve party to bring in 2017, I decided to turn on some music and listen to my favorite artist. I then turned to the mirror to carefully apply my favorite MAC lipstick called Flat out Fabulous. It was right then when the Queen Bee herself reminded me of a few things.
"He must not know bout me," clearly he is irreplaceable .
He definitely had a big ego but that's not enough to win me over
What goes around definitely will come back around.
I was certainly "Drunk to Love."
I had way too much resentment for too long.
"Who runs the world? Girls!"
Queen Bee allowed me to reflect on the fact that 2016 was not that bad, and guess what everything that I went through was definitely not in vain. I was given a lot of lemons but quickly motivated to take those lemons and just make Lemonade! I plan to walk into 2017 and SLAY! The Queen may think that the best revenge is your paper but mine will be my happiness! I've already started making my vision come alive! First up ... travel more ... worry less ... oh and eat cake for breakfast! So instead of being sad, complaining about being alone yet another year, I enjoyed my family, laughed until my stomach hurt (literally), and when the clock hit midnight, I said "tell em Boy, Bye!" Well really I said bye to 2016 and smiled at 2017!
In short, take 2017 by storm and LIVE! Oh, and always listen to the Queen Bee for a little inspiration, she knows best!
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Stood up!
So part of being single is going on fun and exciting dates, sometimes several within a week. When you finally meet someone who you actually like instantly you look forward to going out with them and having an amazing time. I must admit I stopped going out for awhile because I was either meeting men who I didn't connect with or not meeting men at all! However, recently I met a man and he seemed to be everything that I wanted. He's intelligent, handsome and a Moorehouse College man.
Now for those of you who don't understand what that means .....please let me enlighten you. In college you would often hear girls talk about different men on different college campuses. One of those college campuses happened to be Moorehouse and the men there had a certain reputation. They were known for their intelligence, aura and style. So as you can imagine I was excited about the possibility of us connecting. I had already been on a few dates and had an amazing time each and every time we were together.
However, one hot Saturday summer night I was all ready for our day together but to my surprise his phone was off or maybe he just want taking calls. My heart sank when I thought this man was possibly standing me up. I stared at my phone, checked my social media accounts , only to find nothing. I was crushed. After staying in the bed all day and watching crazy Lifetime movies, I decided to pull myself together throw something on and take myself out. While out I called one of my close friends, who came out to meet me for dinner. As I sat there with a sad face slowly drinking my margarita, she put it all in perspective. She said, "Girl that man owes you nothing and sure you may be sad because he hasn't answered his phone but the two of you are simply dating."
My friend is very wise and added, "Don't put all your eggs in one basket for a man you just met. Yes you may like him lbut that's the beauty of dating ... You can date a few people at a time and then make a executive decision when the time was right."
Immediately I started to feel much better. She was right. Yes I was sad and discovered one of my biggest weaknesses. When I start to like someone I really fall hard. I need to simply just date with no expectations and if we are suppose to be..... then we will be. I will say that I hope to hear from Mr. Moorehouse just to know that he is ok. As for our future, only time will tell. Whatever the case I think I'll continue dating and learn to have fun with the process.