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5 things the workplace can learn from childless women

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Often times people assume women without children have a ton of free time to do one thing......work. So you're the first person called into the office for late or overnight shifts. Why is that? Maybe it's because childless women aren't respected in the workplace? I certainly feel this way.I'm sure this is all to familiar to single women too. Now, what if you're married? Does that mean, childless couples struggle to figure out what to do with their free time?

If you're exhausted because you're childless then here's a list of 5 things you can share with co-workers even some family members and friends to ensure them that you're not twiddling your fingers at home.

 

  1. Childless women and couples know how to have fun: Yes, surprising but true and they often look forward to the weekend because they're child-free. Bingo!
  2. Lazy time is necessary: We may not have children to feed, bathe and spend time with but oversleeping on a Sunday is not a crime.
  3. Self-care is crucial: When you're childless, you can often find at least 10 things to do for yourself especially if you always have a jam packed calendar. Martini and manicure anyone?
  4. Impromptu becomes the norm in life: I'm not talking about last minute calls or requests from your boss to work late but impromptu happy hour events or evenings with friends who may suddenly visit from out of time. FYI: spouses actually like to surprise their loved ones with quick getaways or romantic walks through the park or at the beach.
  5. Explanations are a health hazard: Never offer an explanation as to why you can't work late or cater to someone else's needs. It's very rude for people to manage your child-free time. Duh!

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Infertility taught me to appreciate Mother's Day

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Every once in a while an image of a child flashes through my mind. It happens during quiet moments when I’m usually staring into space. I used to get excited every time it happened.  I felt like those moments were subtle hints of comfort and confirmation that I would soon become a mother. There’s always this reoccurring image of a baby girl that warms my soul. It’s so realistic that I feel like I can just reach out and touch her. Surprisingly, the experience has truly helped me to do one thing: Be a mom.

 

I always thought women had to bear children to become mothers. That’s the furthest from the truth. Some women may never experience motherhood as the world sees it. However, naturally giving birth to a child isn’t the only way women can take on such a nurturing role. I’d like to think of myself as a mom. It’s a role I play often whenever I’m around children. Instead of waiting until the day I bear a child, labeling my childless status as a curse or falling into a depression as many celebrate Mother’s Day, I decided to let go of the love bottled up inside me and share with those just because I'm loved. I'm loved unconditionally by my mother, and all the women including aunts who molded me into the person I am today.

 

Infertility takes women on a journey that no one can actually prepare for. It certainly never crossed my mind. I grew up with lots of dolls and played house as a kid. My imagination ran wild then and motherhood was always a part it. I just knew I was going to have children. To my surprise, things worked out differently. I've cried, screamed even felt ashamed about my childless status. Then it hit me. "What does it take to be a mom," I asked myself. My first thought: It takes love, resiliency and the desire to love all children as your own. After all children are a gift from God and for that reason I am a mom and so are you.

 

Happy Mother's Day!

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